My mother has BPD and blames me for everything

[MollyB]

My mother has always found someone to blame for her BPD whether it was my grandmother, my dad but now it is my turn. She has destroyed relationships between me and others and becomes angry at me because I don't take her with me or include her in all activities that involve my family. She's not happy unless she is the center of attention. I feel guilty but I don't want to be around her.

[Lilacs]

Can you give more detail?
It is def hard to be around BPDs - especially when they are in full BPD mode. My sister blames everyone else for all her troubles too. She eloped and 10 years later divorced and said it was bc he misrepresented himself when they eloped and showed his true colors 2 days later... .so instead of getting an annulment or whatever, she stayed w him for 10 years. But it's all his fault. She has been fighting w me ever since she eloped in 2003 and it is always my fault. So I get it, bearing the brunt of the burden. I'm tired of being the bad guy. Before I could go NC with my sister, she froze me out for 3 years, and after 2 years of trying to slowly work on things she froze me out again. Only this time it's a relief.

Do what you need to do for yourself. Take care and keep writing.
Peace
Lilacs