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[Pink_flamingo]

I'm currently listening to "walking on Eggshells" audiobook  and crying.  This explains so much of what I've been dealing with when it comes to my sister. My sister-- My best friend is now a stranger to me. I dared set boundaries (she was attacking my other sister for almost a year now) and I finally gathered the courage to tell her she was wrong and all hell broke loose.  The abusive  texts and emails are flooding in. 68 in 2 hours the other morning. She's attacking all her siblings and our parents.  She denied there's a problem with her.  I told her I was worried for her and wanted her to consider getting professional help.    My brother found your audio book and I am relieved we are not alone.   Has anyone had success getting their BPD help?  We are considering an intervention.  She is going through s divorce and has two young children that we are extremely worried about.  I'm looking forward to reading all the posts in here.  I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders knowing there are so many people in the same boat as my family.  Thank you all. And god bless you.

[Panda39]

Hi Pink_Flamingo,

Welcome to the BPD Family   

I, like you found it a relief to put a name to the behaviors that I saw in my Significant Other's (SO's) undiagnosed BPD ex-wife (uBPDxw).  Learning about BPD can really help the chaos make more sense.  Keep learning what you can about BPD.  I hit my local library and read everything I could. 

I dared set boundaries (she was attacking my other sister for almost a year now) and I finally gathered the courage to tell her she was wrong and all hell broke loose.  The abusive  texts and emails are flooding in. 68 in 2 hours the other morning. 

It sounds as if your sister had an "extinction burst" click on the link below for more information... .

Extinction Burst

The phenomenon of behavior temporarily getting worse, not better when the reinforcement stops.

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=85479.0

In terms of getting your sister help, only she can decide to get help, you can't make her go, you can suggest it (like you did)but she has to want to go, want to make a change. I'm no therapist but an intervention doesn't sound like a good idea for someone with BPD.  Your sister will most likely feel attacked and criticized. 

What we can help you with here is understanding BPD, support for you as you learn more effective ways to negotiate the issues with your sister, we have tools that can help and we will listen and understand because we all get it.

Other members will be along soon to add their welcome to mine.

Take Care,
Panda39

[zsc884]

Hi, I have a similar problem with not knowing how to approach getting my mother into treatment for her BPD. She has reached a point where she is getting constant migraines but refuses to listen to any advice and attacks people for it. My brother and my father seem to be accustomed to living with constant anxiety. I don't want to take on the struggle of having her verbally attack me for this but one solution I could see is to tell her that I will not visit home until she gets into treatment. At the same time I am learning to not take so much abuse from her to help her solve her own problems. So I do not know.