Help. My bf of over 3 years is like two people.

[Selaphany]

Hi all. I'm hoping for some insight to the regular challenges I'm faced with my current ex bf

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[Tattered Heart]

Hi selaphany,

Welcome ,

Could you share with us a little more about what is going on?

[Selaphany]

The better question is prob more what isn't going on.
Over 3 years on off relationship. They were diagnosed with BPD about a year ago. They have started therapy for the last 3 months. 1 on1 now couple.
There has been lies in the past. Wanting to be single and play the field.
But ultimately we end up getting back together.
Their destructive behaviour is bad. This has coincidentally meant when we did split up for a short period of time they caught hiv. Iv stood by them like a mad man.
Recently we have been talking about threesome but I felt like it was more a fix for them than a supplement. Based on everything I said I wouldn't feel comfortable with it. Ultimately I have now ended it cos he said he may be unhappy if we didn't do it.
Since then I have said he needs to decide what he wants either single life shagging around or a monogamous relationship with me. Iv not had a reply

[Selaphany]

Hi selaphany,

Welcome ,

Could you share with us a little more about what is going on?

Yeh sorry have already replied. Look at board