Hi Runnergal
How are things going for you? You mentioned that your husband had an appointment scheduled, and I'm wondering if anything came out of it?
Right now I feel I can only stay until I know he has had those first appts. so they can help him navigate IF he chooses to heal.
I think this is a really healthy perspective - understanding that it's our partner's choice on whether or not they choose to heal.
We can make a lot of choices about ourselves, and one of those is learning how best to "be there" for our partners as they heal themselves. We can also make a choice that enough is enough, and that's a valid (very tough) choice as well.
I hope you're doing well - please let us know how things are going when you have a chance.
~DaddyBear77