No good deed goes unpunished with a pwBPD

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I slammed the door being shut on ever being friendly to my uxBPDw. I became lenient and eventually let slide the court ordered breathalyzer tests she had to take before and after seeing my children. This mistake of mine occurred shortly after the court ordered supervised parenting time for her with my D11, D9 and S8 ended. I thought for the sake of my kids who have already gone through with her arrests and convictions of domestic battery, disorderly conduct (many counts), public intoxication (passed out on the sidewalk with my then S6), child endangerment (all separate incidents and there were more arrests and non arrests incidents) and yes of course DCFS investigations and findings, that the kids just had enough drama. I would do what I could to see if I could help this Cluster B who was circling the drain. Mistake number ... ., well darn it I don't know what number too many to keep track of.

Well, 8 months after the MSA and parenting order was stamped by the court and 5 months after her drinking to a complete stupor with alcohol Vodka primarily, and binging and mixing with Trasadone, Xanex, Cymbalta. Celexa and probably who knows what else and or with illegal drugs, her brand new attorney files a motion with the court. She wants to turn around 180 degrees on me having sole significant decision making authority and the majority of time with the kids for she has claimed she is cured and I am a bad parent. She has tests to report, she has had therapy, bible study, AA and apparently done with all the steps (I must have not answered her call on step 9, making amends) and is ready to take joint custody and share 50 50 on parenting time. Oh I forgot to mention her replacement put a big wedding ring on her and now she is in full righteous power and said she is ready to be the mother of the year.

Is she being nice you may ask? Surely all the recovery tools she is using must have changed her ... .Right... .? NOT!

Never put your guard down, once the Borederline paints you black go NC or LC and don't think of anything else. And if by chance you think that little Miss Cluster B has really turned around think again. She made you a cake, she speaks in that soft voice rather than that scary little girl's voice that sounds like a nightmarish demon, and she seems sincere, caring, gentle, loving what to do now? You kick her to the curb (not physically of course, us NONs are always in danger from these ultimate liars and manipulators to get arrested ourselves, stay clean, so no violence) but don't fall for her acting. pwBPD are great at theatrics, so charming and convincing, they just give you those love goosebumps don't they? Yeah right, just kidding, maybe goosebumps of rage but just try to stay cool. If you do they will most likely make a move of poor form. Look at them to who they are now, not when they idealized you, those days are gone forever and that person doesn't live here anymore. pwBPD always have alternative motives and she will use you for whatever she can.

Excuse me, now I have to figure out how I am going to get the money for my lawyer's  retainer and I need time to think of the best strategy to get her in contempt of court for lying as only a pwBPD can do!

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I slammed the door being shut on ever being friendly to my uxBPDw. I became lenient and eventually let slide the court ordered breathalyzer tests she had to take before and after seeing my children. This mistake of mine occurred shortly after the court ordered supervised parenting time for her with my D11, D9 and S8 ended. I thought for the sake of my kids who have already gone through with her arrests and convictions of domestic battery, disorderly conduct (many counts), public intoxication (passed out on the sidewalk with my then S6), child endangerment (all separate incidents and there were more arrests and non arrests incidents) and yes of course DCFS investigations and findings, that the kids just had enough drama. I would do what I could to see if I could help this Cluster B who was circling the drain. Mistake number ... ., well darn it I don't know what number too many to keep track of.

Well, 8 months after the MSA and parenting order was stamped by the court and 5 months after her drinking to a complete stupor with alcohol Vodka primarily, and binging and mixing with Trasadone, Xanex, Cymbalta. Celexa and probably who knows what else and or with illegal drugs, her brand new attorney files a motion with the court. She wants to turn around 180 degrees on me having sole significant decision making authority and the majority of time with the kids for she has claimed she is cured and I am a bad parent. She has tests to report, she has had therapy, bible study, AA and apparently done with all the steps (I must have not answered her call on step 9, making amends) and is ready to take joint custody and share 50 50 on parenting time. Oh I forgot to mention her replacement put a big wedding ring on her and now she is in full righteous power and said she is ready to be the mother of the year.

Is she being nice you may ask? Surely all the recovery tools she is using must have changed her ... .Right... .? NOT!

Never put your guard down, once the Borederline paints you black go NC or LC and don't think of anything else. And if by chance you think that little Miss Cluster B has really turned around think again. She made you a cake, she speaks in that soft voice rather than that scary little girl's voice that sounds like a nightmarish demon, and she seems sincere, caring, gentle, loving what to do now? You kick her to the curb (not physically of course, us NONs are always in danger from these ultimate liars and manipulators to get arrested ourselves, stay clean, so no violence) but don't fall for her acting. pwBPD are great at theatrics, so charming and convincing, they just give you those love goosebumps don't they? Yeah right, just kidding, maybe goosebumps of rage but just try to stay cool. If you do they will most likely make a move of poor form. Look at them to who they are now, not when they idealized you, those days are gone forever and that person doesn't live here anymore. pwBPD always have alternative motives and she will use you for whatever she can.

Excuse me, now I have to figure out how I am going to get the money for my lawyer's  retainer and I need time to think of the best strategy to get her in contempt of court for lying as only a pwBPD can do!