Break up, attention seeking? help me understand

[shinesobrite]

I was a previous member here (under a different user name I don't remember) seperated from my BPD for 2 years. Thought I was healed broke up today after a short 6 month reconnection  

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[shinesobrite]

I have been on this board years ago. It helped me get over my BPD ex. I was free of him for 2 years, he came back 6 months ago and had changed significantly. Over the last 6 months he has tried to change to no avail. Caught him in a lie today- he broke up with me. He texted me, emailed me, and also left this on CL for meIf the relationship is over why does he continue harping on it? I am hurting enough- I get it! The relationship is over. What is the point of this craigslist posting? He knows I check missed connections every night, and this his him. Please help me- I am hurting so bad. I actually believed we had a future. I can't even type a decent post, because I am so lost, hurt and confused. I haven't responded to any messages. I blocked his email and his face book. I think he emailed me, because he thought I had blocked his phone number. When, in fact, I am trying NC. Where is his mind at? Is he trying to invoke pity? He broke my heart. I didn't want a breakup.

[Turkish]

He broke up with you.  What precipitated this? He contacting you and posting things are painful... .

[shinesobrite]

He broke up with you.  What precipitated this? He contacting you and posting things are painful... .

He let my daughter walk to the mall, she's 12, by herself and lie about it. His apology was riddled with inadvertently insulting my parenting. He ended it with telling me inwas crazy being upset. When I told him it had nothing to do with being crazy he got nasty and told me the fact I didn't have family of friends was proof. He then packed up all his things and went to his parents. He hasn't called or checked in accept to reinstate the break up through email, text, and craigslist.

[shinesobrite]

I need to add she was seeing a movie with a friend and we had both discussed, and agreed, that he would take her as there was recently a kidnapping in this area.

[shinesobrite]

Someone please help. I am hurting so badly today.

[MeandThee29]

Sending you virtual hugs and wishing I could do more! You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Your hurt is very real and deep. BPD causes some of the worst hurt around. I'm only two months into our second separation, and I don't think I've hit bottom yet.

Treat yourself kindly today. Is there someone you can be with?

[Harley Quinn]

Hi shinesobrite,

I'm so sorry to hear that you are back for this reason.  It must be so very hard to handle this sudden loss after breaking up for so long previously.  What was the reason the first time around and who instigated the split?

Regards the message you linked to, does this sound like something he might say in anger and later take back?  From your post and his words, it does read like both of you are feeling awful about splitting up and perhaps this was something he did in haste and now regrets.  Would this fit with past behaviour? 

Hang in there.  Perhaps things can yet change. 

Love and light x