conservatorship petition for BPD mother

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I've been aware of my mother's personality disorder since 1976, and I've learned how to best communicate with her as well as taking the Family Connections class a couple of years ago.  I am now forced to take legal action against her. 

I am currently going through treatment for recurrent uterine/endometrial cancer (my 3d cancer treatment) and I live in a property my mother bought for me 9 years ago and put in her trust.  The property is 2 1/2 hrs away from her.  But 3 years ago, when I went through surgery for a radical hysterectomy, she started to ban me from visiting her--which I did 2x a month.  She is extremely wealthy and she is under the influence of a very bitter and angry man who has his name on the trust and on the properties.  This man validates the invalid--validates her anger and jealousy of me.  She lacks self-direction and is extremely lazy (a princess) and this male assistant does everything for her, she has separation anxiety related to him.  She has shown signs of dementia--leaving the car parked with engine on, stopped using cell phone, stopped using computer, stopped writing letters, can't open her estate gate from home, can't remember my husband's name... .

Her attorney supports the assistant as he is the trust officer.  My mother is currently trying to evict me from the property she bought for me while I have just finished chemo for a recurrence and am looking to do radiation or surgery.  I have been forced to take legal action:  I filed a Quiet Claim on the house and a petition for conservatorship.  Her lawyers are making outrageous claims as to her mental fitness and social activities (she's always been solitary).

When I agreed to live in the property my mother bought for me, this assistant had only just been hired, I did not anticipate how extremely dangerous this situation would turn out to be for me.

In addition to my medical expenses, I am paying 3 attorneys to help so am looking into getting some kind of personal loan.

[Jacki]

I've been aware of my mother's personality disorder since 1976, and I've learned how to best communicate with her as well as taking the Family Connections class a couple of years ago.  I am now forced to take legal action against her. 

I am currently going through treatment for recurrent uterine/endometrial cancer (my 3d cancer treatment) and I live in a property my mother bought for me 9 years ago and put in her trust.  The property is 2 1/2 hrs away from her.  But 3 years ago, when I went through surgery for a radical hysterectomy, she started to ban me from visiting her--which I did 2x a month.  She is extremely wealthy and she is under the influence of a very bitter and angry man who has his name on the trust and on the properties.  This man validates the invalid--validates her anger and jealousy of me.  She lacks self-direction and is extremely lazy (a princess) and this male assistant does everything for her, she has separation anxiety related to him.  She has shown signs of dementia--leaving the car parked with engine on, stopped using cell phone, stopped using computer, stopped writing letters, can't open her estate gate from home, can't remember my husband's name... .

Her attorney supports the assistant as he is the trust officer.  My mother is currently trying to evict me from the property she bought for me while I have just finished chemo for a recurrence and am looking to do radiation or surgery.  I have been forced to take legal action:  I filed a Quiet Claim on the house and a petition for conservatorship.  Her lawyers are making outrageous claims as to her mental fitness and social activities (she's always been solitary).

When I agreed to live in the property my mother bought for me, this assistant had only just been hired, I did not anticipate how extremely dangerous this situation would turn out to be for me.

In addition to my medical expenses, I am paying 3 attorneys to help so am looking into getting some kind of personal loan.

[Woolspinner2000]

Hi Jacki! 

Thank you for coming to share a bit of your story with us.  Welcome! Sounds as if you have an awful lot going on in your life. Anyone would be overwhelmed. Here's a hug for you. 

I'm really glad you are seeking legal advice and help through this situation. Have you looked on our legal board too for help? Are you able to get any T as well to guide you through this emotional upheaval?

 
Wools