Last things your BPD or cluster b said to you

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Mine while lying and cheating but never admitting it but now with that guy haha. Said though I don't deserve her telling me this but she enjoyed our time and the feelings were real... .All the deep connection, love of my life, love bombing for ages oh no wait I've cheated and found a new and now I'm done with you but please believe me the feelings were real. That's when knew it was all fake.

Anyone else had their ex that they knew had moved on try and tell them that it was all real?

[Gunit1]

Mine while lying and cheating but never admitting it but now with that guy haha. Said though I don't deserve her telling me this but she enjoyed our time and the feelings were real... .All the deep connection, love of my life, love bombing for ages oh no wait I've cheated and found a new and now I'm done with you but please believe me the feelings were real. That's when knew it was all fake.

Anyone else had their ex that they knew had moved on try and tell them that it was all real?

[Shawnlam]

All I got was I’ll always love you, you left me for stupid reasons twice we aren’t compatible.Take care of yourself alright xo. That’s what I got but I left her so maybe a bit different I guess.

[Gunit1]

Oh I got that all the way through, I'll always love you, only loved 3 ppl in my life. That was month before she cheated and then acted like I meant nothing at all.

[stixx44]

Her last words to me as I was taking my things from her home the day after she broke it off with me was “I like your haircut.”

I just drove off without a word.

(A text followed a week later... .”I waited so long for you.  I am such a fool.”)

I never answered.  That was three weeks ago. 

I don’t expect to hear from her again, and I certainly will not initiate communication.  I hope I don’t hear from her because I will probably unload a lot of anger towards her that I am trying to rid myself of at this point.

[Shawnlam]

It’s hard to imagine when you read about ppl with BPD that they feel 100 times more emotion than normal people when you get answers like that huh... .oh well when you are sick you are sick .We can’t expect much from people with the emotional maturity of an 8 year old.

[The Cat in d Hat]

The last three days were interesting in my situation. She ended things, and I went out drinking (I’m not big on getting drunk, she knew this, I was just really bummed and confused ). She went out to drink with friends too, in a perfectly fine mood of course. That very night she sent me a bunch of revealing pictures. When I inquired why in the morning, she said she doesn’t remember doing that. We had a a small conversation, she mentioned:

“You tried to pick up something broken, and got cut”

I ignored her after that for a day, as I wasn’t interested in games and it seemed over, and the next day she went full NC (after wanting to be friends).

The following morning, my last conversation with her was when I asked her why she did that after saying let’s be friends. She responded “it felt like a slap to be ignored, so i cut you out of my life”

I asked her what about all that stuff about our connection, and soulmates, etc. she responded “I’m like that with everyone, I destroy everything in my path”.

The very last things? I was so confused I thought she was panicking. I wanted to relate to that and tell her I have dealt with panic and anxiety. I mentioned “health issues” and she asked “You’re dying?”. From that point on she went into a full rage how I lied and planned a life with her and was so selfish for that if I was dying. Then called me emotionally blackmailing, manipulative . And then calmly threatened me with an R/o. (I never met her. How do you jump to an R/o if you haven’t even met?)

She wanted to be chased. She waited a week to make her social media public again. At the end of the week, the day after making it public again, she took a trip to the place I told her I’d take her on the date.

So blessed, I missed this storm.

[Foursome]

I wish I could tell you but she wont shut up long enough for it to be the last thing.

And I am dumb as rocks for not keeping the darn block button engaged.

I will tell you that it is getting somewhat easier to tell her no.

You can tell it crushes her when I do too.  She is so childlike.  I always accused her of being childish about things during the r/s but this is different.  It really is like looking at a little girl acting out.  Its very surreal.

[Cromwell]

coming to my new house must have been pretty much at the front door, and shouted very loud (coincidentally JUST as I went to bed)

"F.O.C"

but it was with a noticeable tremble in it. then after a pause for oxygen she repeated it again.

I really enjoyed this because it proved to me that what she couldnt handle most is that I never chased after her. I dropped her and blocked me out my life. So the illogic to tell me to F.O shows just how much she really wished it would have been that way.

this was 2 months after I ghosted and NCd her and kept myself entirely away and got on with life.

in those 2 months she was still spying on me and it felt like every time you found a gap in the floorboards the rat kept coming into the house, youd seal that and it would find another way in the next night.

my ex could present as sweet and adorable with the softest spoken manner, but when she got dysregulated it was worse than anger, it was vile beyond anything ive encountered. i just dont know how the head didnt start spinning around i was waiting for it.

she was probably drunk.

[JNChell]

I still have to keep some contact with her because we have a child together, but the last thing she said that really made things undeniably over was, “You should’ve f’ing killed your self!” This was immediately after I professed my love for her, our S3 and her D8. I pleaded with her to not shut the door on our little family, that we both needed help and that we could get through it together. That was apparently the wrong thing to say.

This was a full blown rage that happened with our S3 present in the room. I scooped him up and headed for the door. When we made our way out of the house, she screamed “F you!” and slammed the door. I’m still beside myself as to how she was able to act that way in the presence of our Son.

She was screaming a myriad of other things. It just became like white noise in my head. What I mentioned is what I retained from the incident.  

[Darkblaez]

When I confronted my then wife on February 12th of this year about the affair she was having. She said, "I think I'm going to go stay with my parents". Then she left, came back the next morning said she needs to think and we can discuss things when I get home from work, when I got home all her stuff was gone including 2 of the dogs. I called her and she said "I'm never coming back, I do not care about you or our marriage. I need to explore what my life will be on my own". I'm certain it's so much easier to discard when you have a new person you are already hooking up with and targeting.

I asked her parents to send her back home so she can address the issue but they refused. They claim they do not like to meddle but by virtue of giving her a room and helping her move her stuff they were active participants.

-Darkblaez

[Kaboodle]

My uBPDxbf told me, "You aren't meeting my needs, we aren't compatible, I'm moving on, but thank you for teaching me how to make love to a woman." Yuck!

Then he would send text messages, one every two weeks, wanting to know why I blocked him on social media, why I won't say hello to him in the grocery store, why I am ignoring him, why I refuse to be friends with him.

Our last communication was a cease and desist letter from me, sent by registered mail. That was four weeks ago now... .

[Will2Power]

I forced mine to tell me that it’s not my fault... .it didn’t make me feel any better because it didn’t feel genuine.

 (I had threatened to go to the police with all of the death threats and bruises so I had used this over him to attempt to get real closure this time.) except... .forcing him to say things just made me more angry, because in that moment, I just felt like he was saying it to avoid the R/O and potential legal ramifications. ALSO it was STILL difficult for him to say without justifying “well yes I said I would stab you 47 times and burn down your office building BUT you walked away from all of our progress to take care of yourself... .you abandoned me after that.” He never saw that I NEEEDED to as a result of being terrified for my life. He legit thought I would prove my loyalty by staying by his side, no matter how bad the abuse was.

So the last thing he said is that it could have been anyone, and that he doesn’t love or trust. That nothing I could do would change his lack of being IN LOVE with me. That he tricked me. That he is incapable.

Very very weird, but towards the end of our relationships, it was out in the open that he was cluster B. Like we both talked about it a ton... .