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Berta4

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New...I'm overwhelmed and feel compassion for my SO, want not to feel alone

« on: August 14, 2018, 11:55:14 AM »

My significant other's counselor suggested the "Stop Walking on Eggshells" book to me. Read it this past week. I had no previous knowledge of it. I'm overwhelmed. The relationship has it's challenges as it is and now I don't even know how to muster up enough "energy" to proceed. I have very much compassion for him and want to see him well but my insides feel all chewed up. Would love some advice. Or just to talk to someone who understands. Thanks!


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Re: New...I'm overwhelmed and feel compassion for my SO, want not to feel alone

« Reply #1 on: August 14, 2018, 08:02:43 PM »

Hi Berta4,

Welcome

We understand! So you just discovered that your SO has BPD (or seems to)?

I am sorry you are feeling so overwhelmed, but you are not alone!

Have you had a chance to take a look at the lessons to the right of the board? Bullet: important point (click to insert in post)

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Your mention your insides are "feeling chewed up"... .can you please tell us what is hurting you the most? How are you feeling? Sad? Confused? Angry? You can talk to us!

wishing you peace, pearl


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Re: New...I'm overwhelmed and feel compassion for my SO, want not to feel alone

« Reply #2 on: August 15, 2018, 07:44:18 AM »

Hi Berta4

Welcome new member (click to insert in post)

Joining pearlsw in welcoming you to bpdfamily

What are the biggest challenges you have in your relationship with your significant other (SO)?

What are the most difficult or challenging behaviors your SO exhibits?

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