Setting boundaries

[Broken6]

I have been confident for a few years that my spouse deals with BPD.  It has gotten really difficult the last 3-4 years. We have been through counseling with different providers and I have expressed my concerns to them and my spouse but eventually we stop going because I stop pushing for it.  My spouse continues to do the tag your it scenario with me and our children.  I don’t know what to do or where to go to get the right help for our relationship but it continues to be a daily struggle and I worry about the long term effects it will and has had on our children.  I need to know how to manage all this and keep everyone safe from emotional turmoil constantly.

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[Harri]

Hi Broken6 and welcome.  I am glad you found us but sorry for the circumstances that brought you here.  Your situation sounds difficult and unfortunately, is not uncommon to us.  The good news is that things can get better as you work on yourself, get a better understanding of boundaries and begin to change things a your end. 

How old are your kids?  What sort of behaviors make you believe your wife has BPD?  While you can't change or control your wife you can change things up at your end.  Learning about the disorder and some of the associated behaviors will allow you to understand and then act more effectively to take care of yourself and your kids.

Please do share more so we can give you better guidance and feedback for your situation.  Aslo, read and post in other threads and when you have time, check out the articles on the right hand side of the page.  Those articles are a good place to start.

Take care.