Hi again,
I'm back with a link to something that can help you get a better idea if this might be BPD:
Is it BPD?best, pearl.
Hello Pearl, your help is much apreciated!
Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. =>Yes, during our 10 year relationship he has had a huge fear of abandonement. His symptoms flared when we were appart (never more than 3 weeks) like compulsive eating, self loathing and cheating or joining a swinger website.
A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation.=> this not so much, he has idealised me for the last 10 years. He has no real friendships and spends all his time with me.
Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self.=> copies everything I do. For example orders the same foods as me in restaurants, did an online course when I did, asks for my opinion on everything.
Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex,substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating). Used to binge eat, but less so now, used to compulsively treat himself to expensive food to binge on, especially as a passive agressive
Sorry. It's late now, I will continue tomorrow... .