:help:I need advice please!
My BPD husband has for the past many years, set up notifications when I swipe a credit card. Monitors amazon and all accounts. If I spend, he texts me and it begins with a question he knows the answer to. Then he unleashes for hours and days about a hair cut, facial, face and make up products and then some. He has even made it difficult to get groceries. So, I have tried multiple things... .doing a budget and forecast. Giving myself a budget he could agree to. Nothing worked, so I took a big chunk of cash out and I chose to have and spend over a year. He doesn’t get to know how much, where or what. It has brought me the peace I haven’t had for years but it had only made him just as bad and he says bc of what i did. He wants a better solution but I have tried so many and this actually impacted him but not changing results. He says it breeds deceit and more. He says to come up with a better solution and he will be better bc he realizes what he had before... .help!
