Getting over her on a dating site

[wbrady11]

I found my ex who was diagnosed with BPD on a dating website. I am trying to find a way to get her back. She dumped me two months ago. What should I do?

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[once removed]

what happened that led up to the two of you breaking up? is there any contact between the two of you currently?

[wbrady11]

Cheated on me by making an account on one those dating sites. Confronted her about it. She lied but showed her the proof because buddy of mine was on there too. She got and ended things. We still keep in contact via text couple times a month

[once removed]

what is the contact like? has she showed any interest in getting back together?

[wbrady11]

It started out with her being hot/cold. Then she said I need to get over my feelings.  Now she is being cordial. We got together last month to hang out but found out she briefly saw someone but that ended quickly. She is single now.

[once removed]

the more we know, the more we can help.

what are the conversations like? are you initiating most of them, is she, or both? was that the only time youve seen her since the breakup?

[Harri]

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Harri

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