Hi Bridgit,
Welcome to BPDFamily. I’m glad that you’ve joined us, though I’m really sorry for the circumstances that brought you here. Many members here can relate to what you’re going through, especially that mix of relief and pain when things go quiet.
What you’re describing is something a lot of parents here have faced. That silence can feel incredibly heavy, sometimes even harder than the ups and downs, because there’s no way to make sense of it or respond to it.
It also makes sense that it hurts when contact only happens around practical needs, like the lease or taxes. You showed up for her in those moments, and not hearing back afterward can leave a real emotional gap.
One thing you might consider is gently shifting how you reach out. Weekly messages can come from a place of love, but sometimes they can also keep you in a cycle of waiting and hoping for a response that may not come right now. Some parents find it helpful to step back a bit, both to protect their own energy and to change the dynamic slightly.
You don’t have to disappear or stop caring. It can just be about finding a pace that feels more sustainable for you.
If you feel comfortable sharing, what have those interactions been like in the past when things were more active between you two?
