ONE year

[BPDstinks]

Friday will be an entire year since i physically SAW my BPD daughter.  I am so sad, nothing is shaking this sadness (than i feel IRRITATED b/c I have worked very hard on my own mental health)

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Sancho]

Dear BPDstinks
You are so entitled to feel very sad - but please don't be irritated that you do so.

This Friday will be a whole year since you have seen a beloved child. It is unimaginable that one could let this day pass without feelings of sorrow and grief. There is enormous loss.

I know from your posts your love for your child is real and deep - so real you are able to look at things in a way that focuses on your child and her best interests without reference to your legitimate needs as a loving parent.

Because of this love, you will grieve the loss and experience the pain. Tell yourself you are entitled to feel this way, this is normal when you are grieving.

I hope that for part of this day you can reflect on all that you have given your child - what you have done for the love of your child. I hope that you can say 'I did all that I possibly could' and 'whatever the situation, my child has been and is loved.