Sometimes I wonder if I will ever be happy

[Inforthelonghaul]

My daughter is almost 25 and has been diagnosed with BPD.  Everytime she calls me and she's having a hard time, it hits me so hard.  Sometimes I wonder if I will ever feel ok.  I feel guilty that this is somehow my fault, whether because I didn't do what I needed to do to help her when she was young (even though I really tried) or whether it's because I had kids with mental illness in my family (although I was not consciously aware of that at the time).  It crushes me that she feels so sad.  She tries to get help for it.  And nothing seems to be working.  She is miserable and so therefore so am I.  Is there a future where I get to be ok?

Any words of encouragement out there?

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders