Mother with BPD adult daughter

[Evieart]

Hi To All Reading This,
I am a mother of an adult child who is suffering with BPD and she doesn't have a clue this is her disordered personality. I would love to find other adult mothers that have a simular situation. I live in Southwest Virginia where there is no support groups organized. I know there are mothers suffering in silence as I have with no one to talk to and theripists that don't have an understanding of what I and you have delt with all of their upbringing and beyond into their adult years. These are the rough numbers of people that suffer from this mental illness I found online:

Approximately 1.6% of the U.S. adult population is diagnosed with BPD.
Women are diagnosed with BPD at a rate of about 75% compared to men.
This suggests that around 3.4 million adult women in the U.S. may have BPD.
BPD often co-occurs with other mental health disorders, complicating diagnosis.
Awareness and understanding of BPD are increasing, leading to more diagnoses.
 
I recently got an insiteful book called "Traumatic Cognitive Dissonance" by Peter Salerno PsyD. It is the first comprehensive self help book that focases on "Healing from an abusive relationship with a Disordered Personality". I am divorced from her father that suffers from a Disordered Personality also and have realized within the past year that is what I delt with in a 36 year marriage. I am a survivor that is just beginning to understand it has detrimentally affected my nerves system and am figuring out through the book a path for healing. With my daughter having this mental illness it is double trama for me going through it once again. I have my good days and bad days with my nerves system and the symptoms of trama I have been through.

Thank You for reading this post and I hope to hear from those mothers out there that are looking for support to not feel alone.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders