I try my best to support and motivate her to stay the course.
This is a wonderful goal and I think it is an area where bpdfamily is uniquely qualified to help you.
Many strategies and tactics to support a "pwBPD" (person with BPD) can sometimes be counter-intuitive.
What is validation? How do you avoid invalidation? Why is invalidation bad? Is validation different than agreement?
Understanding that validation is not so much about "thought process" for a pwBPD as it is about "feelings process".
Most likely you are scratching your head about the above few issues and that's completely normal.
https://bpdfamily.com/content/communication-skills-dont-be-invalidatinghttps://bpdfamily.com/parenting/03.htmI would encourage you to read some of the links I've suggested above and review other bpdfamily posts about this topic. Take notes on what doesn't make sense and post about that here.
How does that sound?
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