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[cloudyday24]

Hi there,

The page on validation is a great resource, thank you.

Just a quick update. We’ve been communicating all week which is good, but had a bit of a setback this morning as she appears to be in a very foul mood. I am not sure what the cause is, but I have to imagine it’s related to an argument she had with our child yesterday. 

A week has gone by since the move out threat, and I don’t think she is any closer to making that decision, but it’s hard to tell. I am meeting with my counselor this week to discuss these developments and at that point I’m going to arrange marriage counseling.

I am doing what I can to make sure that I am validating her when appropriate, and avoiding any JADEing. This was a good week but I feel that this will be a tough weekend.  I am really struggling how someone can hold such a grudge and reply all of the “bad” in our relationship over and over and over in her head, while ignoring all of the good memories that we’ve had.

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[Harri]

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