When is a good time to break it off?

[HomeyDuck]

I dont think I am to that point, yet, but I have been wondering what signs do yall look for, that makes you say, I have had enough?  I love my gf, very much and and trying to understand and deal with her illness, but also realize a lot of these relationships dont last.  Just wondering your thoughts, on this

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[once removed]

whats on your mind thats got you thinking about it?

[HomeyDuck]

Me being new to BPD, never had it myself, or have been with someone, with it.  Im really not to the point of considering it, but from what I have read and watched, those without it can be sucked in and not realize it.  And then will have a hard time, leaving, if need be.  I just want to be able to set a boundary, with myself, that will be my cue that this isnt good, for me or her

[once removed]

its an important question to ask yourself. we have an article here that talks about what it takes to be in a relationship with someone with BPD. its a really good first place to start.

from that article:

Strength: It takes a great deal of strength and emotional stability to be in a BP relationship and not be emotionally injured by it.  A person in a weak emotional state, who feels wounded/abused, or depressed is likely to be consumed by the relationship, confused by the intense rages and idealization, and finding their self worth in decline.  If you chose this path, you've got to be very strong and very balanced.

https://bpdfamily.com/content/what-does-it-take-be-relationship

what do you think?