she wants me to end the relationship

[Jimievs]

So today I heard from her, not for long she couldn't hear my voice "to painful for her"
I said I will be here if she decides, but she wants me to end the relationship, even though she did? She has told me to take control and end it, remove her from all social media etc, I have said I cannot do this, if you are truly finished with me then you must do this yourself, I'm not giving up on the relationship, so to remove you would go against my own agenda, I can't validate her want, and will not take the guilt, for her decision

She said it would be hard to see what we are each doing... Meaning what she will be doing I guess

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[Jimievs]

Update ... She has told me he felt lonely in the relationship and was seeking other men to talk to, says she needs to work on herself and learn to be independent, she believes that she has made me to be her security... Which I understand, she seems to have been very honest and has said I mean alot to her but until she can be comfortable in her own company then she can't live with me that she needs me to give her time... I agree with what she has told me and am prepared to give her that , question is I'm not sure if I can cope with the situation as much as I want to, of it being on her terms, knowing that she has been chatting to different men to fill a void she has? She says she doesn't want to be with someone else but can I really believe this, I want to but is the reality of her being faithful to me while we have space hopeful thinking on my behalf, when at least one of the men has made no secret of wanting something to happen with her