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I let go of my son
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May 25, 2019, 04:49:30 PM »
Well things went from pretty good to total crap and I finally decided to just let go and step back and see how long it takes for him to come around. I’m tired in my body so so tired in my body of the pain and I can’t take it anymore. So I jumped off that no end roller coaster.
I love my son and always will and he knows this because I sent him yet another unanswered text and email telling him I’ll love him always and always will be here till I take my last breath. That I was getting off this emotional roller coaster and I was causing myself pain by constantly trying when all I get in return is silent rejection. So I will continue to get my grand daughter for all of us to enjoy her and her to be around all of us and feel the love we have for her. That’s all I can do at this point.
Thank you all for your guidance and if there are new developments in a good way I’ll let you know, but I really don’t see that happening anytime soon. You are all in my prayers much love to you all!
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Hi Mickey47,
Accepting and letting go isn't easy, but really is important when dealing with these kinds of situations
I know it isn't easy and how much you love your son, but I think focusing on your own well-being and the things you can control is a wise thing to do. Your son is an adult and needs to find his way in all of this and decide for himself how he wants to move forward.
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Hugs to you Mickey.
As hard as it is, letting go of your son's drama is better for you. I don't think it is possible to let go of the love you have for him, but this
letting go of his drama and handing it to him to solve is a self care step.
Please keep in mind that none of his behavior has anything to do with you. It's his choices and when you leave the drama that he chose to him to solve, you take yourself off the drama triangle with him and his wife. Sometimes it's the fact that you are the reality check that he is rejecting. It's easier for him to go along with his wife's distorted thinking but he does know it is at some level.
Thank goodness for that grandbaby that she has you. I'm glad for both of you that you can be a loving adult in her life.
Take care of yourself - don't forget to do that.
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