I need to know I’m not alone

[Depression = 72% of members]

Last weekend, my SO of 14 years, verbally attacked me in a psychotic rage and yesterday, he shocked me by recognizing that he needs serious help and is ready to face his struggle with BPD.  I’m so hopeless right now and struggling with PTSD.

[nonbpdwife]

Last weekend, my SO of 14 years, verbally attacked me in a psychotic rage and yesterday, he shocked me by recognizing that he needs serious help and is ready to face his struggle with BPD.  I’m so hopeless right now and struggling with PTSD.

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[wendydarling]

Hi nonbpdwife 

You are not alone, we are here with you and we are listening, we get it. 

Are you receiving help for your ptsd? From what you say it sounds like your SO has had a break through recognising he needs serious help and ready to face his struggles with BPD. Has he been diagnosed? Is he ready to make an appointment with his Dr?

When you are ready, it can help to share some more of your story, so members can support you.

Are you able to take time out, a walk with nature, see a friend, family member?

WDx

[Ozzie101]

You are most definitely not alone, nonbpdwife.

Many of us here have been (or still are) in the same boat. There is hope and it does get better. Wendy has asked some good questions and I hope you'll answer them when you feel willing and able.

Keep posting and let us know more! This is a safe place.

[Leah66]

You are not alone. Many of us suffer the emotional ups and downs. Things can go well for a while and then suddenly out of the blue the constant criticism strikes and we are totally gobsmacked. Hang in there I care about you.

[DC Dad]

I’ve  been on this message board for less than a week and if there is anything I’ve learned and been comforted by is that we’re not alone. There are a lot of us, and posting really helps. Hang in there. Keep posting. People will read, care, and respond with compassion and advice.

[Carguy]

You're not alone.

 I have only been a member for a few days but I've been doing a lot of reading the last few months to learn about my now ex BPD SO.

Through Reading other people's posts and the information and tools on this site it has really helped me understand and feel that I'm not alone in this myself. From what I have seen this site has excellent tools for answering your questions and helping you.

Hang in there! You have found a great site with great tools and support!

[Scarlet Phoenix]

Hi, I want to join the others, old and new members, to say that you are not alone. We are here.

Please share some more when you feel ready.

Warmly,
Scarlet