Can someone with BPD/EDD learn empathy with DBT?

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I am so frustrated!Although my bpdh is in DBT and making strides, I'm wondering if he will ever be empathetic towards me. I feel like we are living in his world what his beliefs are we have to accommodate that or else his anxiety goes through the roof. For example, my last job and my current one are not great situations. My last job I myself and teammates were as sh..heads and f...ers. This job I'm very new to the industry a month and a half, my boss has been out sick more then in so training has not been great I needed to fill out a report that I have never in my life done, didn't do it the way she wanted so I was a lier. Not to mention the job itself is awful. Friday was a particularly rough day when I mentioned to my H about maybe quitting, focusing on school and finding something part time his response was "well you won't get to do... if you quit" Mind you we just paid off a CC, car and some other misc bills which he told me once these were paid off I could work part time or not at all.
   Another example is when we are having a conversation it's like he zones out if he can't say what he wants to say when he wants to say it.

I am so tired both physically and mentally, some things are better but when it comes to things I may need it feels like it never changes. I told him I needed to give up school or full time work and his response was "that's not what I want for you" Will I ever get what I need?

Thanks for letting me vent 

[Masang M]

I am so frustrated!Although my bpdh is in DBT and making strides, I'm wondering if he will ever be empathetic towards me. I feel like we are living in his world what his beliefs are we have to accommodate that or else his anxiety goes through the roof. For example, my last job and my current one are not great situations. My last job I myself and teammates were as sh..heads and f...ers. This job I'm very new to the industry a month and a half, my boss has been out sick more then in so training has not been great I needed to fill out a report that I have never in my life done, didn't do it the way she wanted so I was a lier. Not to mention the job itself is awful. Friday was a particularly rough day when I mentioned to my H about maybe quitting, focusing on school and finding something part time his response was "well you won't get to do... if you quit" Mind you we just paid off a CC, car and some other misc bills which he told me once these were paid off I could work part time or not at all.
   Another example is when we are having a conversation it's like he zones out if he can't say what he wants to say when he wants to say it.

I am so tired both physically and mentally, some things are better but when it comes to things I may need it feels like it never changes. I told him I needed to give up school or full time work and his response was "that's not what I want for you" Will I ever get what I need?

Thanks for letting me vent 

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