The lack of emotion from my husband towards me, excruciating.

[Stic68]

Hi all, I feel a bit useless posting this but I'm finding the lack of emotion from my husband towards me, excrutiating. I do have a circle of great friends, but it is holidays Down Under and no one is around. I'm trying to be loyal and calm and not reactive but I'm struggling tonight. His responses to my questions about his day are minimal. He is obviously not enjoying work, but won't talk to me at all. I'm at home because of an injury, awaiting surgery, and feeling incredibly isolated and hurt. I'm typically a very outgoing cheerful person, but really not managing so well right now. There's considerable financial pressure (as I'm off work and have in the past been the one to earn and pay our way.) My hubs is not able to even share our bed with me right now. Just needing a little encouragement, if you've been in this situation and have something positive to tell me I would be enormously grateful.

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hi Stic68,

i hear you. i feel for you. im sorry that your husband is having difficulty responding to your needs.

what sort of injury are you dealing with? ive had some chronic pain in my life, and i know how isolating an injury can be.

[Ozzie101]

I'm sorry you're in this situation, Stic68. Especially for an outgoing, social type, that sort of isolation must feel stifling.

I'm not really outgoing myself (I'm an introvert and am all about my alone time) but I'm fairly cheerful. When my H is in one of his moods, it almost feels like I'm trying to walk through quicksand or something to keep from being pulled down with him.

One thing I do is try to watch a funny movie or TV show I love or talk on the phone to a friend who can always make me laugh. Or just read a book that lifts my spirits (which, in my case, is Agatha Christie murder mysteries -- so not sure what that says about me ).

Are there things you can do, even stuck as you feel, to "free your spirit" a bit?