Looking for DBT therapy

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Hi Folks

I think my partner is a high-functioning BPD with depression and anxiety. She has only been recently diagnosed, previously she has been fobbed off with 'depression' and has spent decades on anti-depressants. We are from the UK but spend time in South Africa. We have found that the UK is particularly difficult to get therapy unless the patient is really acting up and the best help and the BPT diagnosis was suggested by a South African psychiatrist. This was a revelation to us and I read the book Stop Treading on Eggshells and the BPD diagnosis resonated more than just 'depression'.

We were also recommended to look into Dialectical Behaviour Therapy. We have given up hope on receiving this on the NHS in the UK as they are so overstressed and ill-equipped so are resigned to paying for it. All I have found regarding DBT courses thus far in the UK, is at The Priory. I have also found there are a couple of DBT courses in South Africa which are massively cheaper.

We realise that a DBT course needs to be at least 6 month long and are willing to consider locating to anywhere in the world to get the best treatment, although obviously as we are British with South African connections those countries would be best, plus my partner only speaks English.

So my question to the community is where would you recommend and why? Thanks so much

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[CHChuck]

My pwBPD declared all the problems in our relationship were because I had BPD and insisted I see a therapist specializing in DBT. Wanting to avoid conflict and fulfill her desires, I gave it a go.

Honestly, my time with that therapist has changed my life. He laughed off her assertion that I have BPD, but his time working with it has helped him model some incredible skills.

I live in the United States (North Carolina). I know there are lots of options here, but from first-hand experience, my place is great!

[Dungahass]

Have you tried this site?
https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/counselling

I don't know how well it works for the UK, but I know for North America, it has an extensive list of therapists, with their backgrounds and specializations. Perhaps you can take a look. Good luck!

[Naughty Nibbler]

The two links below lead to references for South Africa:
https://www.facebook.com/SADBTInstitute/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/za/therapy-types/dialectical-behavior-therapy

The Facebook link, leads to an online class.  That could be an option to consider. 

DBT isn't magic.  A person has to make an effort to learn the strategies & skills and to put them into practice & do homework.  An unwilling person, going through the paces, won't likely benefit much.

You can buy DBT workbooks online. (i.e. Amazon or what's the equiv. where you live). It could be beneficial for you to see what's in a workbook.