Hello,
EarthMom. You have definitely found a safe place to share your experiences and hopefully be able to work through them.
We’re always open.
If you’re comfortable in sharing, what are some of the issues that you’ve been fielding when it comes to your husband? I understand that you’ve tried therapy together, but it hasn’t been successful thus far. If I’m understanding you correctly, the last therapist physically prompted a response out of you on several occasions? If that’s the case, simply write that person off as a poor therapist that most likely shouldn’t have the right to be practicing. S5’s mom and I went through three different therapists. One really sticks out. She always had one of those giant plastic mugs of soda, and would take phone calls during our sessions because she was trying to sell her house. The conversation always ended up about her and her troubles. It was really something to witness. There was one that I was able to have faith in, but when things started getting real in our sessions, appointments suddenly started to get canceled. 5 weeks in a row I got texts from S5’s mom about how the therapist had to cancel. I don’t have any evidence, but I’m fairly certain that she was sabotaging it.
Are your plans to leave your husband for good, or are you taking some time away to weigh things? 34 years is a long time. How are you feeling?
