dumped by BPD man

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

I worked super hard to get my ex a job ,an apartment , a work permit, etc. He left for someone else, and I'm scared of all my hard work , hoping for a better life for us, is going out the window for someone else to pick up. I miss him, but he was incredibly abusive and after a while I lost my ability to fight back and let him treat me bad as long as he was still calling me. HELP

[lttlfernace]

I worked super hard to get my ex a job ,an apartment , a work permit, etc. He left for someone else, and I'm scared of all my hard work , hoping for a better life for us, is going out the window for someone else to pick up. I miss him, but he was incredibly abusive and after a while I lost my ability to fight back and let him treat me bad as long as he was still calling me. HELP

[anonymous_tico]

Hi, littlefurnace. You are not alone. My ex BDP girlfriend dumped me (if you can call blocking me on WhatsApp dumping someone) after a four year relationship.

There are two very difficult things you need to understand at this point: 1) You are better alone than you are with your ex. 2) your ex never loved you the way you loved him.

I made sure my ex got her GED, a job, I gave her everything she ever needed, and worked hard to make her happy. She still cheated on me continuously and disappeared from my life without so much as saying goodbye.

I know being alone hurts. I’ve been alone for a little over a month now and it still hurts. Get busy. And when you start missing your ex try remembering all the bad things he did to you and all the crazy things as well (my ex once broke my glasses at a bar, another time she started “channeling” my dead cousin’s spirit, etc.). Try remembering it’s not their fault. They are broken and if you stay long enough with them, they will break you too.