A very tough day

[george2]

Hello all.  It has been quite some time since I posted here. My dbpdW has really been struggling lately.  Today was a barn burner for sure.  She has been threatening to leave all evening, and started it in the middle of my Father’s Day meal with our young children.  I cannot believe I am still shocked at the level of meanness and cruelty she can speak to me... the name calling and blame for EVERYTHING under the sun.  I am so emotionally exhausted I really can’t even relay the whole story, but needless to say I am fearful of her mood.  I only pray the morning after sleep levels her out.   She has been raging.  She is starting to act out even more in front of the kids.  My greatest fear is the breakup of my family, and I have told myself for years that I would endure whatever I could to keep my kids around me everyday.  I fear she is finally at her end and truly going to leave, and I have am so upset.  How can I ever work through this.  My children are my life. 

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[juju2]

Hello

Am so sorry you are going through this.

maybe the holiday triggered her and hopefully tomorrow is better.

The pandemic is a hard time too.

all I have is to offer support.  each one of us here has dark days.  I know I have.

I keep some sayings in my mind for such days:

This too shall pass.

Hang in there

j

[DiscoDave]

You have my greatest sympathy George. To begin raging at you during your Fathers Day meal feels so selfish, I can relate.

My recent ex talked about breaking up with me whilst out on my last birthday meal out together, a meal that I also paid for along with the 'celebratory' drinks after. It really does feel all about them, on a day that should have been reserved for you.