BPD and memory loss

[brighter future]

I was curious to see if any of you had experienced severe memory loss with your past or present BPD partner. During some of my online research, it seems like this can be a common trait for this disorder.

My recent potentially BPD ex-g/f had severe memory loss. She could not remember hardly anything from one day to the next and had to put notes into her phone on the calendar with a reminder chime so she would remember to do whatever it was that she needed to do. There were several instances where she would forget our dates, forget to take her medicine, forget things related to her children,  etc. Her children and family members also noticed this issue and spoke about it fairly fairly often. One family member in particular told me that it was like dealing with a person that had dementia, and she's only 35 years old. My BPD ex-wife had memory issues as well, but not nearly as bad as my ex-g/f.

I don't know if the memory loss issue is due to BPD people being so consumed with their internal pain that it is easy for them to forget important things, or is it caused by them trying to block out things that happened to them in the past?  Do you all have any input or experiences to share?

[grumpydonut]

Mine would say "I don't remember" and that she forgot things easily.

[brighter future]

Mine would say "I don't remember" and that she forgot things easily.

My ex-g/f would usually say "I don't remember that", "That never happened", "I didn't say that", or "I would never do anything like that" when in fact she did. The ex-wife was pretty much the same, and usually she'd turn what she did or said and try to blame it on you or someone else.