Hi Kermit,
I just have some questions...
Are you letting your kids have contact with an idealized version of grandparents (that you wished you had) or base on a realistic view of your mom?
If she is abusive to you why would she magically change and be different towards your children?
How old are your kids and how does your mom currently behave towards them?
Do your kids see their dad's parents?
Really feeling terrible that my kids have to go through a similar experience that I did growing up
Is your kids seeing your mom more about your feelings or theirs?
How often do your children see your mom now and how do they feel about her?
Is sending your kids to your mom's about F
OG (Fear, Obligation, Guilt)?
Just some stuff to think about.
Panda39