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[Piper19]

I am in a two relationship with my partner, i am very grey thinking and he is very black and white. I believe his bpd is histronic. He has had a very sordid destructive sexual past and has cheated on me  twice and i am trying to come to grips with how to either end this relationship or work on forging ahead, he is trying to change, trying to be better.  I asked his therapist for help in how to talk to him, she only diagnosed him with depression, but told  me to get to leave or stay, about handling a narcissist partner. I have also gotten the book walking on eggshells suggested by my counselor.

I want to learn how to communicate with out setting of his split personality rage, the deflecting and gaslighting. He is a flirt and needs attention and to be heard and right all the time. On the other side, he can be extremely loving and sweet. I get very torn  by my emotions and distrust of his behavior. we have been through two couples counselors, one was combative with me and highly unethical. the last one , was too timid with him and he ran over her. Im currently securing a male counselor , hopefully with experience with bpd, fingers crossed, but i am at my last chance. I need direction, hope, anything, the affairs were very recent and i struggle with finding the words to relay my hurt without crying daily. He does feel remorse , or does a good job with faking it. I just don't know anymore. How do I do this? I feel like Im going crazy.

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