Hi Nwyfree, glad you are reaching out for help and support. People who have pwBPD (persons with BPD) in their lives, in whatever capacity (partner, family member, child, coworker, anything) can need double or triple doses of support to make it through these challenging relationships.
It sounds like you feel isolated and without a supportive "safety net" of friends or family. I'm sorry it's come to this... to me, that sounds lonely. When you were closer to friends and family, how were those relationships? How are things with you and your family, generally?
He says i dont think he is important and i dont look after him properly
Nwyfree, that sounds pretty typical, and here's one way of looking at it -- what if you switched the pronouns in your head? What if... he were actually saying that HE is the one who doesn't think YOU are important, and HE doesn't look after YOU properly? What would be your take on that?
It's totally understandable that you'd feel stressed, tearful, and like you couldn't focus, with all that high-intensity chaos and emotion. I'm sorry it's coming from your partner... I'm sure that's not what you wanted out of your partnership.
It's OK to not know what to do. You deserve kudos for reaching out. This is a great step to take, to have a support group that you can lean on.
When you're up for it, want to share some more? We can definitely talk through some tools and skills... and until then... I hope you can do something kind for YOU today, even if it seems "too small" (it's never too small!).
Again, welcome;
kells76
