Daughter Moving Out of State

[Shortcake]

Hi all, very long story short; My 19 yr/o daughter was just recently diagnosed with BPD and possible bipolar.. She has had issues with drug abuse and has overdosed once (pills). Her boyfriend of 2 years (off and on) is also an addict and has overdosed 4-5 times and was in a serious car accident while under the influence which resulted in him losing vision in one eye. He also has a criminal record. He moved to SC to live with his grandmother. Now my daughter plans to move in with them. My family and I have done everything we can to try to support her while she was making good choices, but it’s an emotional rollercoaster. She was sober for 4 months and relapsed a few days ago since the boyfriend has been back. A few days after that, her boyfriend overdosed again. After that I told her I can not help her move. She blames me for everything and has left the house. She has nothing but her id and credit card which is almost maxed out now, and literally the clothes she left in. I have removed her belongings (clothing, shoes, makeup) from my home so she can’t come take it. I told her I will help her with her meds and therapies and that is all. She called me a bitch and said she’s never talking to me again. They have tickets to fly out tomorrow. I have no way to contact her since she lost her phone and I am now blocked on her boyfriends phone. I am heartbroken and terrified for her well-being. My family and I have done everything possible to help her. I just don’t know what to do.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Swimmy55]

Hi Shortcake,
 You can take comfort in that you have done all you can AND you have established some awesome boundaries!  Where to go from here?  To you.  To your inner healing .Here is suggested reading on estrangement from this forum:
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=296973.0

You are not alone in this.  My son, too , is estranged and we parted under ugly circumstances where he was violent toward me and my home.   He has chosen not to really contact me since I refused to give him $ ( most likely towards his drug use).  Hang tough and in the meantime get yourself the help you would have gotten your daughter had she been accepting.  Coming here to this forum is a great first step, like the reading says: you can't go this alone.  You are among kindred spirits here.