Alcoholic BPD friend

[MillieCat]

My best friend of 16 years has BPD; over the last couple years  she has become an alcoholic. For personal reasons I just can’t with the alcohol. I love her soo much, she is family even if she isn’t blood and I want to be there for her, to be a constant she doesn’t have to worry will abandon her. I don’t know how to be these things and not enable her drinking. I’ve told her that I won’t be answering her calls and messages if she’s drinking and I always check on her the next day but I don’t know if I am doing the right things. I want to be supportive but I don’t want to enable and I feel lost trying to navigate it. Any advice? And yes she is seeing a therapist already if that matters.

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