Now I have no job and living here and he's kicking me out

[Sophiasparkles33]

Hi everyone,

I am currently in a relationship with someone who has BPD. We started talking with a business arrangement that turned into something romantic. He needed someone to move in to his home to help with his dogs when he and his ex left. We started off by talking over the phone, and texting, and email. Eventually we were talking all day. He is amazing and there are so many qualities I absolutely love about him. I fell for him pretty fast. He had made it seem as though he and his ex had been broken up for quite some time. Come to find out this was not true, they just broke up when I came into the picture. Regardless, I moved in. Things have been crazy ever since. At first it was incredible. We were going out a lot and had so many great moments of romance and pure joy. The dogs get along great (his and mine). We got along great also. Until he started showing his depression and locking himself up in his office, which I knew he did when he got in depressive states. Then he started to become angry and mean. There was a lot of fixation on what I was doing or not doing. And it was a constant attack. Then the next day he would be fine, like nothing happened. I left my job because he said he needed help with work related stuff. Now I have no job and living here and he's kicking me out and telling me to get my job back, but still wants to date. I'm so hurt and confused by everything. I don't know what to do.

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[formflier]

Uggg...quit a job to work for this guy or did you quit a job and move in to help on an unpaid basis?

I will let you know this pattern is no unusual, that when you become physically more close...you start to see the issues appear.

What is your goal here?  Why not go back to old job or get new one and move along?  Did I read correctly that he is evicting you?

Best,

FF

[Sophiasparkles33]

Yes you read correctly and yes he did evict me. I am currently staying with a girlfriend and have a meeting with the director at my previous job tomorrow. I would like to say that I saw the red flags here but man was he good! Ah well, lesson learned! It has sparked in me a new interest in BPD however. I'd never even heard of it until recently. Thanks FF for your response.

[formflier]

Ugg..evicted..how are you doing?

Is all of your stuff out of his house?

What "ties" do you still have with him?

How far away from his place is this girlfriends house?

What's next for you?  

Best,

FF