You’ve let her know that you will wait for her to figure things out. Give her space. Don’t pressure her even with friendly short contact; it will come across as needy. Be the best self you can be in the interim and pursue your interests outside of this relationship.
this is strong advice.
your loved one is dealing with what i call an "unresolved previous relationship". there really is no competing with that, it simply has to work its way out. you want to be on her radar, but you dont want to be too involved, and you dont want to chase.
in general, positioning yourself as a fallback is not a strong or attractive position. in some ways, you are doing that. as Cat said, your loved one knows full well how you feel.
its hard to step back and give space; i can be an anxious person, and anxiety suggests to me i need to act. but if youre going to wait this out, and not torture yourself in the process, you need a big picture approach.