struggling relationship

[Depression = 72% of members]

my girlfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years now. After the first year i started to notice our relationship getting toxic. No intimacy, fighting constantly, nearly broke up many times. My partner tells me I am the problem, I have my own mental health issues, PTSD, Panic Disorder, Social Anxiety, and Depression. I just want her to love and value me the way she did during the first year. If anyone has any advice I could really use the support.

[Hanson2332]

my girlfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years now. After the first year i started to notice our relationship getting toxic. No intimacy, fighting constantly, nearly broke up many times. My partner tells me I am the problem, I have my own mental health issues, PTSD, Panic Disorder, Social Anxiety, and Depression. I just want her to love and value me the way she did during the first year. If anyone has any advice I could really use the support.

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Relationships with a BPD partner go through a predictable cycle. In the beginning, there is the “honeymoon phase” which is delightful and a time that one yearns to re-experience. Unfortunately that is seldom the case.

For these relationships to be successful, the emotionally healthy partner has to be very strong. There’s a lot to learn in navigating a relationship with a BPD partner. Having good boundaries is imperative. I encourage you to explore the Tools section on this site. Here is a good article:  https://bpdfamily.com/content/what-does-it-take-be-relationship