My BPD partner calls me profanities and says she hates me once a week.

[Aug]

My girlfriend has lived with me for 9 months. Just after we moved in together, she stopped her therapy. She's been having episodes once a week, calling me names and saying she hates me and I ruined her life. Her episodes have started from nothing sometimes like offering to make her pancakes or offering to get something from the grocery store for her. I want to end the relationship because of all the pain I'm feeling, but I feel sad for her, which makes it difficult. Not sure what to do.

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[Cat Familiar]

These relationships are difficult and that you’re having second thoughts at this point is something to think deeply about.

Does she have a history of failed relationships?

Does she perceive herself as a victim and blameless?

Are things always your fault?

Chances are, things will not get better without her commitment to long term therapy.

Be very mindful of birth control because you could find yourself more tied to her than you expect.

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my ex kind of moved herself into my home for the first three months of our relationship. it was brutal. we fought all the time. likewise, she had stopped seeing her psychiatrist, or taking her medication.

bpd is a disorder of highly volatile emotions, and emotions that can swing back and forth - maybe one minute she hates you, the next she loves you.

loving someone with bpd is not easy, but it can get better.

tell us a little more about how the most recent incident played out between the two of you. we can walk you through it.