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Ak1234567

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« on: August 07, 2021, 07:00:51 AM »

 How do I get unblocked.
I’ve been doing a lot of research and still am wanting to be back with my ex partner.
I’ve been blocked on everything for 2 weeks now after being split. I tried calling and messaging to no avail and have now
left it as is.
She claims I had assaulted her for not using a condom during consensual sex, yet I didn’t know it was such a big problem as she would never stop me and if she did I would have no problem using one.

The same morning in which she left me she was cuddling me in bed and saying that she loves me. I’m having a really hard time.
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« Reply #1 on: August 07, 2021, 11:55:27 AM »

Hi and welcome Welcome new member (click to insert in post) It may be best to leave a simple message that you're there for her and let her have time to process everything.

This article may be helpful.
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Ak1234567

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« Reply #2 on: August 07, 2021, 08:39:46 PM »

Hi and welcome Welcome new member (click to insert in post) It may be best to leave a simple message that you're there for her and let her have time to process everything.

This article may be helpful.
Thank you and I would do that if possible but as of Wednesday I was blocked on the last remaining thing. I was trying to organise a time to catch up so we could speak about what was happening. Struggling with the no contact right now
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« Reply #3 on: August 08, 2021, 05:35:37 AM »

Sorry you’re going through this but I think you have to let some time come between this situation right now.  She’ll come back around when she’s ready. If she’s not in the right mind space it’s likely better off there isn’t contact.
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« Reply #4 on: August 08, 2021, 07:13:50 AM »

Sorry you’re going through this but I think you have to let some time come between this situation right now.  She’ll come back around when she’s ready. If she’s not in the right mind space it’s likely better off there isn’t contact.

I think you may be right, I hope I haven’t pushed her too far away trying to get her to talk to me while still being angry/annoyed at me.
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« Reply #5 on: August 11, 2021, 10:23:23 PM »

Hi.
I’m in kinda same situation. I broke up with my undiagnosed as far I understood, girlfriend. I tried to do it very gentle. Only dating for a month or so. Long distance relationship. But she threatened to comit suicide, and even cut herself. I was at her place at the time. So I stayed, and hoped for it to just be her  overreacting. I didn’t know her that well. We just started dating, but sensed some minor red flag .
After that episode she changed her personality slowly, and over the next days she showed a more aggressive way of being toward me. When I left her she was kinda ok. We live over 200km from each other. When I came home I called her and it was all good. Then for the next week things started to go sideways. She showed a more aggressive approach, and started not to answer calls and so on. I then said I didn’t want to be in such a relationship and tried to get her to talk with me about it. After an 6h+ long phone call where she manages to throw her phone in the room and break the screen. She also accused me for being cold and was sure if I broke up with her, I would find another woman right away and so on and so on.I got her calm down and we went to bed still on the phone. At that point I think I had ended the relationship or at least tried to (2-3) times. A couple of days later, where she didn’t really respond to me. She did send a text trying to blame me for the situation. I decided to unfriend her from all SM. After I tried to call her several times. Then she went into full block at me except FB. Because I already blocked her there, and on the phone. Next day I unblocked her from FB and the phone and she had sent me a text. And tried to text and call her. Kinda worried and felt I had left her hanging. And worrying she might’ve done something dramatic with the suicide threat in mind.  Nothing. So I decided to leave her alone and txt her that I was there for her and care for her and hope she was ok. And she is always welcome at my place if so, and I hoped next time we’ll meet or talk would be in a bit more calm state of mind. That was the last from me. Then one week later she suddenly blocked me from FB. No response no nothing and 2 days later changes her profile picture back to one of her old ones. I still haven’t responded or done anything. I’m not going to be with her anymore as a romantic relationship but I do now understand what happened and that she might have hidden her mental situations for me. Now I’m wondering if or how long it will be before she reaches out?
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