My wife is bpd,

[Raymap]

How to manage her when in a burst of temper?  After it, she always says she wants to leave the family. She is a stepmother who’s at odds with the daughter. Should I leave her to go, break up the marriage, or tolerate it ?

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[Rev]

Good day Raymap

Welcome to our community!  This is a place of varied experience and wisdom. Pretty much, what ever the issue, someone has been there. And, you'll find that people will reach out with honesty and compassion.  

So thanks for reaching out.

It might be helpful if you could add a little detail.

Some starter questions that would help someone here having a little more to go on.

- How long have you been together?  Are the outbursts new or have they been going on  since the beginning of the relationship?

- Can you give an example of what the outbursts look like and when they occur?

- What happens after they are over besides wanting to leave?  What makes her decide to stay?

- How old is your daughter? What impact do the outbursts have on her?

Reach out any time.

In the meantime, take some time to scope out the resources here. Maybe there is something that will resonate with you.

Rev