Now I realize what has happened all these years

[Phoenix123]

Hello. I just realized my husband of 27 years may have BPD. So many traits seem to fit our relationship. I am reading stop waking on eggshells and essential family guide...
I am now working on me and how I respond. I feel now like am sick of his _____. I am finally trying to place boundaries. Having never done that it's new and scary.  I am trying to find EMDR therapy to work through my trauma to be able to speak my wants and needs.
I am not sure about the future of our relationship. I don't know how much more I have to give. So much pain in our past.

E.

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[Cat Familiar]

Maybe rather than thinking about how much you have to give, think about what you can give to yourself? How about peace of mind and reduction of conflict? Take a look at the tools at the top of the page.

Sometimes the best strategy is to stop over preforming.

[Phoenix123]

Yes!  I have been working on myself and trying to make my mental health a priority.  As I grown and am able to make and keep bondries, I can see if our relationship has a future. 

E