Marriage Coaching: Looking for thoughts

[bugwaterguy]

I am looking for advice on Marriage Coaching.  I am worried that a coach who isn't familiar with BPD might have me going down fruitless paths.

Has anyone used any marriage coaching in the past?  Has it helped?

I am considering Marriage Helpers and  Geoffrey Setiawan  - but I am open to all sorts of ideas.

I would like to develop a clearer plan for how to save my marriage, if that is possible - and/or protect our children and myself.

I have read Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

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[hands down]

"fixing your marriage" sound like a one legged kickboxing champion... i digress.. 


In regards to parenting your child with a partner or co-parent that has challenges, I have enjoyed these books

Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex: What to Do When Your Ex-Spouse Tries to Turn the Kids Against You
https://www.audible.com/pd/Co-Parenting-with-a-Toxic-Ex-Audiobook/B01LFPT82Y?ref=a_library_t_c5_libItem_&pf_rd_p=80765e81-b10a-4f33-b1d3-ffb87793d047&pf_rd_r=4MA47WPEAMMDJ9PY7F0T

The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind Oct 4, 2011
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B004J4X32U/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tkin_p1_i0

also this one is helpful for relationships
The High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, and Validation

https://www.audible.com/pd/The-High-Conflict-Couple-Audiobook/B01MD1D04K?ref=a_library_t_c5_libItem_&pf_rd_p=80765e81-b10a-4f33-b1d3-ffb87793d047&pf_rd_r=4MA47WPEAMMDJ9PY7F0T