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« on: April 16, 2022, 07:00:16 PM »

Hi everyone! A couple of days ago my ex called me out of the blue and we started talking again. Everything went smoothly. It's been really nice hearing from him again.

My goals are to maintain stability, take things slowly, and most importantly to keep working at taking responsibility for my own happiness and feelings. I can already feel codependent tendencies creeping back in, so I will try my best to maintain awareness of it and be active about it.

My question today is about how my ex brought up, not for the first time, how he finds me similar to his mother. He says it in a positive way (they have a good relationship right now), but I'm wondering how this comparison might come into play in our relationship (if it hasn't already in the past!) and if there is anything I can be mindful of to better navigate the situation.
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« Reply #1 on: April 17, 2022, 11:06:40 AM »

Have you asked him in what way does he think you are similar to his mother?

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« Reply #2 on: April 18, 2022, 04:38:43 AM »

When you say "They have a good relationship right now," does that mean they have had problems in the past? If so, what does that imply for your future with him?
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