The issue of BPD came up. The testimony of this whole case depicts so many of my experiences I have in a 37 year marraige to my DBPD wife. It's hard to listen to. Ibwatch as an observer judging what's going on but then I remind myself...this is so close to the day to day life I have. I'm speechless this so clearly explain the life of one who stays.
I too have been watching and reminded of my daily life. She throws things, screams, follows me into other rooms when I leave the room.
Hearing the recordings of him trying to placate her into not raging at him. Hearing her claim he head butted her or how he started it and his needing to explain that his head DID bump her but it wasn’t a head bump. I have had to endure those kinds of conversations hundreds of times…
“You scratched me HARD!” when I was asked to scratch her back and I had a sharp hangnail that apparently caused a tiny scratch.
“You dug your fingers into me! Your tried to hurt me!” when she asked me to rub her feet and I used more pressure than she wanted at the moment.
“You pinched me!” when I woke up and moved my arm from under her while she was sleeping- so her skin pulled away from being stuck to mine.
All of these were over exaggerated and intentional injuries to her. And the spending 25-30 minutes explaining to a 38 year old woman like she was 6 that it was an accident and not an attempt to hurt her.
The statement by Depp that “I couldn’t understand why a fifty something year old man had to have a reason to go to bed before or after his wife because I was or wasn’t tired at the time” rang like a church bell to me. Why do we always have to go to sleep at the same time? So I could sit in bed with my eyes open the whole time?
The situation with the boots. She went off at him for taking his boots off because THATS HER JOB! In my case it’s opening the mail, taking take out food out of a bag, paying a bill that needs payment…
