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[aatkins8]

I am new to this site and could use some feedback. My girl friend lives with me and suffers from BPD.  Her outbursts can escalate into a fit of all out violent rage. When this happens she physically attacks me.  I can not calm her down, she will not listen to reason, and losses control.  I am at my wits ed. I can not tolerate this level of constant stress.

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[kells76]

aatkins8, welcome. Glad you found us.

Anyone would be feeling the same way in your shoes. That is an intolerable level of constant stress. Glad you reached out for support -- the more support we have in dealing with the pwBPD in our lives, the better we do.

How long have you guys been together? living together?

When did her physical abuse of you start? Are you aware that she is physically abusing you?

What do you typically do when she is out of control?

I know it's a lot of questions to start... it's just to better understand your situation and walk with you through this. Things can get better, or at least "less worse", at minimum for you, and sometimes for the relationship too. It's OK to take one step at a time.

I hope today you find a moment to do something kind for yourself...

kells76