Long term marriage

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I am 67 years old and been married 48 years.  We have two adult married children, four grandchildren.  My husband has always been a moody person.  I always tried to smooth things over with the children, but as they became adults I stepped aside and let the relationships sort themselves out.  Our two adult children stood up for themselves which angered my husband so he stopped trying to have a relationship with them.  He doesn't like either of their spouses so there is no contact between my husband and them.  We've been fortunate with the grandkids as their parents let them visit us on their own.  I'd either pick them up or we'd meet half way.  I would also visit them regularly on my own.  Now my husband has decided that he wants me to put our marriage first and foremost.  I am an artist who frequents markets on my own.  My husband now insists on joining me but I want my art to remain my own.  My husband has a strong character and would want to take over some decision making.  My art is mine.  He's insistent that familial visit would have to include him but he doesn't like the in-laws and they don't openly welcome him. I'm feeling boxed in.  There is a lot more but this is my concern for this time.

[Shirl]

I am 67 years old and been married 48 years.  We have two adult married children, four grandchildren.  My husband has always been a moody person.  I always tried to smooth things over with the children, but as they became adults I stepped aside and let the relationships sort themselves out.  Our two adult children stood up for themselves which angered my husband so he stopped trying to have a relationship with them.  He doesn't like either of their spouses so there is no contact between my husband and them.  We've been fortunate with the grandkids as their parents let them visit us on their own.  I'd either pick them up or we'd meet half way.  I would also visit them regularly on my own.  Now my husband has decided that he wants me to put our marriage first and foremost.  I am an artist who frequents markets on my own.  My husband now insists on joining me but I want my art to remain my own.  My husband has a strong character and would want to take over some decision making.  My art is mine.  He's insistent that familial visit would have to include him but he doesn't like the in-laws and they don't openly welcome him. I'm feeling boxed in.  There is a lot more but this is my concern for this time.

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[Jabiru]

Hi and welcome It sounds like you've done well with setting boundaries to protect yourself and your art passion.

Do you know why he would want to join the family visit given those reasons?