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What is your sexual orientation: Straight
Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Broken up living together
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« on: August 09, 2023, 06:29:34 PM »

My ex with untreated BPD recently broke up with me after I told her used to look at porn. I never was addicted but decided to quit 4 months ago . I recently joined a men's group and was improving my communication and listening skills with her. We were doing really good, she opened up to me and told me things about herself that she never has in the 5 years together. I was more open with her as well. She broke up with me after the porn thing came out she also turned it into that I'm a pedophile because some of girls had smaller bodies. I know that this triggered her past trauma. She kicked me out of our house  that we own together and won't let me speak to or see her kids. I tried validating her feelings as well giving her space over the last 3 weeks. Just wondering if there's anything I can do to repair the damage I've done
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« Reply #1 on: August 14, 2023, 12:16:31 PM »

More like repairing the damage she did. Porn as a whole should not be discussed with bpd females. They have massive unrealistic insecurities and jealousy that are not bound to time. So essentially you should be a virgin that never saw or thought of another naked woman. Let that be her reality. Don’t talk about past use, present use, future intent. Don’t talk about sex life you had with any other girls or rate who was best. Not really sure what to do about getting her back. I noticed you said her kids, they are not yours too?
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