Break up with an ex, Seeking advice to try and get back together

[Dillbrick]

Hello, I am seeking advice about a break up with an ex/friend with BPD, Their symptoms seem more severe, Paired together with co morbid C-PTSD, ASD, GAD, MDD.

They had a split over perceived betrayal, And were very angry/upset, This person I care about very deeply, They have a tendency to cut people out of their lives periodically.

The break up was two months ago, They wanted space, And I was unfortunately not able to provide that well, Which played their fear of Engulfment, They admitted they were upset, But still wanted to be friends/partners again in the future making a promise on that, They appear to be very truthful to their words and actions, Which is positive.

Their decision was to block me, I've been blocked for over 40 days, With 9 other methods to reach out

I am mainly seeking the best opinions and advice to avoid permanent devaluation/painted black, And avoid losing this friend forever

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[Jabiru]

Hi and welcome A relationship takes both sides to work. My recommendation is to let them know you're open to rekindling it and leave it at that.

It can be hard, but it's important to live on. Good luck 

[Dillbrick]

Thank you, I'll give that a try, For now at least I have to let some time pass I feel like

[Turkish]

My mom had that alphabet soup of diagnoses sans ASD. Looking back into my childhood as an adult, it then made sense how she could be triggered and cut people off who had seemed to be close friends. I saw it plenty of times as an adult as well until I was basically all whom she had left.

If you can send a message, I'd look in the articles in the TOOLS pull down tab at the top of the board to tailor it to an emotionally sensitive person. I'd also make it short, and not talk about your feelings as such. Emotional cut-off is tough...

[Dillbrick]

Thank you, I'll give it a try