Daycare provider

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Hi all…I am posting in “bettering” as I am still trying to better my relationship even though, we are continuing forward through the divorce process.
My question is…at the temporary hearing, I was granted sole decision making. I have now found out that my uBPDh is trying to hire a babysitter for when he has our kids at his house when he works, which is every other Friday.  I freaked out a little when I picked my kids up and the first thing they told me was dad told me some woman was coming over today…um what…this is the 3rd weekend they have been with you and you are introducing them to a woman?  I called him, which he told me I’m not supposed to be doing since all conversations are supposed to be through the parent messaging system, which I should t have done, but I was not ok with him introducing my kids to some random woman when they are already struggling with all of the changes.  So my bad, and I hope I don’t get in trouble for that. He told me it was a new daycare person. We have a daycare person whom my kids love, but he says she is on my side so he wants his own…or he wants to piss me off. If I have some decision making, can I make the decision not to have a different daycare provider at his house?  Or since it is at his house, do I not have any way?  Thanks!

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