New books on new treatement method for BPD

[qcarolr]

In a round about way I was exposed to some new books today that seem hopeful to me. Getting this for my DD26, well that is another story entirely. So thought I would throw this out for discussion.  "BPD and the Conversational Model - A clinician's Manual" Meares, etal and "A Dissociation Model of BPD", Russell Meares.

Both are research and history of treament based with a strong grounding in neurology - the brain, emotion, self, etc. They were referenced in a couple books I was reading for gd7 about attachment - "Creating Loving Attachments" Kim Golding and Daniel Hughes ( based on UK case studies) led me to "Brain-Based Parenting" by Daniel Huges, etal which led me to Russell Meares books.

Amazon's store on my Kindle is amazing - one touch and I get a free sample, then of course I want the whole book. Reasonable prices. Immediate download. Nice way to spend watching the superbowl with dh while gd napped on the sofa tonight. Now to find time to really absorb what I am reading.

Let me know what you think if you have a chance to sample these.

qcr  

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[cfh]

Thanks!  Will order them for my ipad.  I prefer Downton Abbey to the Super Bowl.  LOL

[qcarolr]

What keeps popping into my mind reading these books (just got through the introductory summary last night) is that I fit this profile 20 years ago when my bipolar was first dx. And I have learned so many coping skill - and I still lose it when under lots of stress. I am a very loud person - gd is so good about giving me the "look" or telling me to stop yelling (I do thank her for this reminder, and acknowledge to both her and dh that I understand my loudness and intensity now). It has taken years and years of hard work and diligent struggle. Dissociation has been a big part of my life - PTSD from a single early childhood sexual abuse or my genetic switches? This was also brought to my consiciousness in treatment for the bipolar - did lots of therapy on the PTSD 20 years ago as well.

But I felt really terrified of hurting someone else when I raged or lost control in some other way. Like a "quiet" BPD.

Reading the Attachment book I also realize that I was in fact an emotionally abusive mom when DD was young. DD does have some concretely dx learning disabilities - and these are becoming apparent in gd7 now as well.

The brain is so complex - perhaps all the signs and symptoms interact to create the dysfunction we see in our kids lives. This is why there are so many co-existing dx's. All we have had in the past is behaviors we observe. As the science evolves to show the concrete phisiological functions and dysfuctions I am praying treatments that bring about real concrete changes can happen.

How long though - until they are in the mainstream that make them affordable and commonly available. And then to convince our acting out kids to accept participating, esp. these adult kids.

Lots of thinking triggered here for me.

qcr