A shoutout and update :)

[doingtheswim]

Wow, looking back since being NC for about 16months- i can't believe what I went through.

I'm so glad I'm here today, not yet whole but soo much better than I was.

If any of you know my story, it was tragic-- like many of ours. It killed me.

Aside from the breakup I had many other issues, financially, moved (hurricane Sandy)---

Lots of challenges.

I took 10 months off dating, mainly because I was too much of a mess to contemplate it.

As of now- i'm still NC. My anxiety level overall has been getting better as is my depression- although I have been dealing with a brain freeze thing-- i think its just massive emotional/anxiety where I get this internal mental pressure. Like extreme OCD.

But yes, its getting better.

I have FINALLY set boundaries, properly with people and as a result have had to cut all ties with my abusive and absent father and self absorbed, neglectful mother. It has been hard but I will be healthy and happy- no matter what the cost.

My friends have been amazing!

I started woking out everyday, look better than ever, stopped biting my nails and dress sharper than I ever have. I smell very good too : )

I'm not complete yet, but Im doing great.

Reading everyones stories on this board, seeing I'm not alone in this surreal, disgusting yet necessary experience has been huge.

Im so thankful to you guys.

I also started to date casually.

One woman in particular. She is healthy, drama free and is a frikkin adult, unlike EVERY woman Ive chosen prior. Kudos to me!

Guys, thanks for reading, any input-- especially about anxiety. No I wont take meds. But I pray and meditate every day, multiple times if need be.

-swim

[LetItBe]

I'm glad you're feeling better!

Have you tried acupuncture and perhaps Chinese herbs for anxiety?  Or massage?  Those, along with meditation and exercise, help me.  Oh yeah, and sometimes some calming tea (chamomile, etc.).

[sunrising]

I smell very good too : )

Bam!   That's about all I need to hear     These boards sometimes need some humor and lightheartedness.  It often comes from people like you coming back to "update".  I love hearing the good news!  

[doingtheswim]

I smell very good too : )

Bam!   That's about all I need to hear     These boards sometimes need some humor and lightheartedness.  It often comes from people like you coming back to "update".  I love hearing the good news!  

Thanks man!

We all just have to keep going and remember that before our ex's we were awesome and we still are!