Well it all blew up in our face last night anyway, as it always does when she offers "extra" time. She asked for money, he said I'm not paying, she said "If you don't give me money you can't see your daughter." (can't wait to show THAT one in court). Then she changed her mind again an hour later and started raging and even called and texted me (apparently Verizon blocks expire after 60 days, fyi).
I guess my hesitation with returning D8 back to her mom during the day is that her mom tends to rage on her (asking a zillion questions and yelling at her if she says anything nice about us and making her cry. Every. Time.) so I wouldn't want her to go through that twice in one weekend.
Overnights are what count in custody,so he gets an extra overnight(documented of course). Taking custody of the child and then having someone else watch them doesn't look good ,if you can't watch her.If a parent is available,that should always be first choice.
Ok that's what I was looking for, what would the court see as the best course of action. Thank you.
"She's only been allowing him EOW "
He's a parent.With no custody order in place,he has as much right as she does to the child.Even the police won't get involved with custody disputes.Technically,he could keep D8,she sends police over,he doesn't hand her over,they leave.Nothing they can do.
He's got to get out of the mindset that he's second class because he's a dad.
I guess I say that with a bit of vitriol. She has put him on the "Not allowed to pick up" list at after care. He can't leave work early enough to get D8 at school. So everything has to funnel through uBPDx. She likes having the control that way. So his options on exercising his parental right are limited. Right now all she is willing to give is EOW but if and only if he pays her.
